The victory isn’t in the outcome, it is in being one of the brave few who takes a chance.
On a recent Sunday I was reflecting on my week. I often do this on Sundays before I map out the followiing week.
As I thought about some of the challenges we’ve had including the flu, stomach bug, a family vacation, and unplanned home renovations, I thought about the pursuit of goals and wrote this sentence in my journal.
This idea had been rolling around in my thoughts for a few days.
Recently, I set in motion a new goal that failed to grow wings.
I started working toward it and made good progress, but felt hindered by situations beyond my control.
Often, we think of victory as an outward facing achievement such as a new job title or living in the exclusive neighborhood.
We judge the validity of the reward on appearance and social approval alone.
This perspective diminishes the real value of pursuing new challenges.
Let’s explore a different view of victory and look at the other, and, in my opinion, more important reward in pursuing goals.
The “Be, Do, Have” philosophy is a conceptual framework that suggests a reversal of the common approach most people take towards achieving their goals or desired state of being.
You know how we often think, “If only I had more money, time, or the right tools, then I could do all the things I want to do, and I’d finally be happy, content, and fulfilled”?
Well, this approach turns that idea on its head.
It suggests that we start with who we want to be.
It’s all about looking inward first, making that inner shift, and becoming the person who naturally does the things that lead to having what we desire.
It’s a journey that begins with us, inside out, not the other way around.
BE
The foundation of all transformation is who we have to become to achieve the new objective.
We don’t get what we want, we get what we are.
That being said, we need to become the person that achieves the goal we are setting out to accomplish.
Let’s imagine that you are passionate about jewelry making and want to turn your hobby into a full time career.
As a professional jewelry maker, you might aim to fully embrace and represent the essence of what it means to be in this craft.
In the outside world it appears that we changed our behavior alone, but in reality we changed ourselves to accomplish the behavior.
For this next section you may want to get a notepad or journal out.
Start by asking the following questions:
DO
Once you embody the identity and characteristics of your goal, you naturally begin to take actions that are congruent with this identity.
Continuing the earlier example, a person who has adopted the mindset of a successful jewelry maker will start to take actions aligned with success in entrepreneurship, such as networking, seeking mentorship, learning continuously, and taking calculated risks.
The actions you take are a direct reflection of who you are and who you believe yourself to be.
This step is important as it proves to yourself and the world that you have truly adopted this new way of being.
If you don’t see yourself making the changes you know you haven’t taken on the necessary beliefs.
Check out THIS BLOG POST to find out how to change beliefs at the subconscious level.
I hope you still have your journal out as we will use it for this next section.
To determine what you must do ask the following questions:
HAVE
Finally, “Have” represents the outcomes or the achievements that result from being the right person and doing the right things.
By embodying the identity and taking appropriate actions, you create the conditions for achieving your desired results.
In essence, having is seen as a natural consequence of being and doing.
The philosophy argues that success, fulfillment, and other goals are more effectively achieved as a result of internal growth and appropriate action rather than by seeking external resources or conditions first.
Here are some questions that let you know you have what you want:
Journaling is great tool for creating awareness which I always say is the first step in all growth.
Taking on new challenges means we might fail, but it’s worth it to stand out as someone who dares to try something bold.
Even if we don’t succeed, we prove we’re brave enough to keep going.
After all, becoming a better version of ourselves is more valuable than anything we could get.
Take care,
Jennifer
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