Is change really possible?

Have you ever followed a path for so long you really can’t see any options outside of it? If it’s a job you think to yourself, I don’t have that many skills, my resume is outdated, and anyway this is where my friends are.

I don’t know how many times, I have asked questions until I realized the grass isn’t greener anywhere else or until I settled on the fact that I’m not actually fit enough to jump the fence.

It’s so easy to convince ourselves that change isn’t possible. The truth is, and we all know it. We won’t know unless we go for it.

My grandmother had eleven children (yes you read that right). She decided she wanted to leave her marriage and go to school to be a substance abuse counselor at the age of 52. Can you imagine?

She raised kids her whole life!

She had her first born, my mother, when she was 17 years old. I can’t imagine the audacity she had to think she could start all over (AND she was still raising kids).

In the last 30 years she completely transformed herself.

When I was a kid she went roller blading with me and she had a cool boyfriend with a motorcycle. She became an amazing inspiration and transformational force in the lives of many. She passed away several years ago and at her funeral I heard story after story from people about how she had touched their lives in profound ways. Complete strangers were sobbing tears of gratitude for my grandmother’s role in their lives. It was truly incredible! Had my grandmother stayed on that path she wouldn’t have touched so many with her experience, love, and hope. So how did she make such a monumental decision? She got herself to the point of threshold. This is the point at which you feel you HAVE to make a change, a change CAN be made, and YOU must be the one to change it. You might be wondering how you can get yourself to the point of threshold. 

Here are some techniques to use:

1. Know what you want!

Maps are useless if you don’t know where you are going. If you really don’t know what you want you may have to decide what you don’t want and consider the opposite. Think about your past and what types of experiences, locations, people, subjects, etc. have sparked your interest and follow that thread to see where it leads.

 

2. Change your behavior!

 How do you do that? There are many ways.  Here is a link to WikiHow on using goals and positive thinking. This is a great way to make changes and I have used this method most of my life.  Another method is using self-hypnosis or affirmations. There are many YouTube audios that allow you to listen to affirmations as you go to sleep. This is a good time to use these because the brain passes through the theta brain wave state as we doze off to sleep. During theta we experience a high ability to take on new information including changing beliefs with affirmations.  My favorite is Psych-k® because it makes change easy and quick. You can learn more about it here.  No matter what method you use, they all work.    

There are so many ways to create change in your life and as you make decisions to stay on your path or start anew, remember that you may not be fit enough to get over the fence yet, but as you climb, you will grow the muscles you need.

This blog is just one of my new paths and my greatest wish is that it supports you on yours. Lots of love! Jen

 

 

 

Disclaimer: Please note that this article is intended to provide general information and inspiration. While it offers valuable insights, it’s essential to remember that it’s not a substitute for professional advice or therapy. If you’re facing significant challenges or struggles with mental health issues, I encourage you to seek support from qualified professionals who can provide personalized guidance. Your well-being is important, and there are experts who can offer the help you may need. Take care of yourself and reach out to professionals when necessary.